The Paradox of ‘Self-Help’

September 18th, 2007

Here’s an interesting article which shows the difficulty of trying to change your heart with your mind.

http://women.timesonline.co.uk

This woman wrote a book on her experience of trying to follow the self-help advice of several major books, and how it made her life worse.

Don’t try to follow someone else’s idea of how you should be. That approach cannot possibly be right for you. Even if the actions are right, the approach is wrong, because only following your own heart is right for you.

Also, don’t follow your mind. This sounds like a paradox — what do you follow if not your mind? Well, you must follow your heart. It will lead you to the unexpected, the terrifying, the new, toward your longing and your fulfillment.

Susanna

Entry Filed under: Goals, Relationships